Rejection. No one likes it. We’ve all had it before in our lives it can be PAINFUL, awful, heart-wrenching.
It could be that soccer coach that told you that you couldn’t run fast enough
Your boss nitpicking your work
A man you’re dating after a few dates telling you that it was not the right fit.
Does this sound familiar to you? Do you have people like this presently in your life?
The negative Nancy’s and Naysayers
- People who put you down, subtle put-downs, overt or subtle aggression
- Make you second guess your own beliefs and doubt yourself
But—let’s look at the upside of this: J
I’ll redefine rejection for you:
Rejection is never personal, but it feels so damn personal in the moment. Whenever you are embarking on a new territory and on the new horizon for new things, rejection can be the cold hard killer of your dreams, or the greatest motivator or thedriving force of change and greatest opportunity.
The times that I have seen humans rise is usually after a large rejection, It can be a core shattering wake up call and the greatest teacher because it shows you that you can rely on yourself to find your own confidence and worth. You do not need everyone’s approval to be valuable. You do not need everyone to boost you up, when you know inside of yourself is a love.
“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.”
― Steve Maraboli
- DO SOMETHING that brings you back to your center.
It could be a spiritual meditation the immediately after GET OUT OF YOUR HEADand get your body moving. Somatic dancing, working out, having a healthy distraction, being social and going out with friends.
- Cuss-them-out under the radar
(Warning*Intense pissed off feelings can happen when you do this)
You may be thinking, “What is that?”
Write a very honest, real blunt, sad, angry, all the emotions, get it out in a letter to the other person,DO NOT CENSOR
Example:
“You’re a piece of ________.” insert your favorite cuss word.”
Either have a notebook or type on laptop how your REALLY FEEL, get it ALL OUT. You’ll feel better afterwards, and you got to release energy surrounding this situation and person.
- Reflect and Inner Processing AKA the deep work. Ask yourself some clarifying questions
- Why do you need their approval to have value?
- Is there feedback that could be valuable here?
- How can I learn?
- What is the opportunity for the feedback?
- Why did this trigger me?
- Is this from an earlier experience in my life, from my childhood?
- What is this mirroring back to me about my own belief systems?
4) Use it as direction and motivation to take ACTION.
Get your cute butt off the couch 😉 and get to work. Solve the problem. Do the inner work
If you’re having trouble with any of these steps:
Contact me, and we can have a discovery coaching call which Action Steps need to happen for you to achieve your Rejection Proof Goals.
With all my love,
Marie
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